'I Heart Nick Carter': Family Ties

Wed, Sep 24, 2014 at 10:44 AM by User

It was family that set them up and it was their shared family turmoil that initially bonded Nick and Lauren. But family has also been one of the obstacles the couple have faced in their road to wedded bliss. This week we talk to Nick and Lauren about the hurdles in their love story…

In the early stages of your relationship, what were the challenges?

Nick: There were a lot – like minimal support from my family. They don’t like her at all and that’s unfortunate because she’s so good for me and I love her so much. That’s one thing that’s been tough for me over the years because I’ve had to basically choose.

It’s always been that way with my immediate family. They never like my girlfriends, but the one time I find someone that I care about and love … that’s what I’ve been dealing with.

But it was your family who set you up?

Nick: That’s the irony of the situation … my twin brother and sister were the ones who were pioneering me meeting her. They were like, “You have to meet this girl. She’s perfect for you – she plays video games and listens to rock music.” Then the minute I meet her and I’m starting to be taken away from them, they change their tune. It’s unfortunate.

Lauren, how difficult was that for you?

Lauren: At first it was rather shocking. Everything altered and suddenly made sense. Pieces of the puzzles started coming together about his childhood, who he was as a man and who he is now. I saw the bigger picture. It was like, “Okay, so you guys were really great in the beginning, but now that we’re getting married and Nick no longer supports you financially and has his own family to start thinking of….” Things changed very quickly.

Nick, you said you’ve had both great times and great fights with Lauren. What were one of those stand-out arguments?

Nick: We’ve fought about my family a lot and the fact that I’ve tried to force her – a lot in the beginning – to like my family even though a lot of them were treating me badly. She was seeing that and didn’t want to be a part of it. She always said, “If you want to have a relationship with them go ahead and be around them, but I don’t want to associate with them.”

Not all of them, but a lot of them … like my mum and my dad.

Before you met Lauren what did “family” mean to you and how has that changed?

Nick: Before I met Lauren my idea of family was, "Blood is thicker than water," and no matter what you have to support your family. But I had gone through so many things, like having my financial means taken away from me and having it always be about money when it came to my family.

Then when my mother and father divorced they shattered my idea of everything they stood for and I didn’t believe in it anymore. I thought marriage was supposed to last forever and that no matter what, you’re supposed to be there for one another and when that didn’t happen, my idea of family changed.

My new idea is that family is not necessarily who you’re born to. It can be who you choose them to be. You don’t have to be a slave to the old-fashioned saying that blood is thicker than water.

How much has Lauren’s family embraced you? It seems like you’re pretty close…

Nick: Yeah, they’re great people – loving, supportive and they’ll do things unconditionally, which is awesome.

Lauren, what’s the hardest thing about being married to a boy bander?

Lauren: When we get home from tour and people invade our personal space. We just had an incident at a juice bar where we wanted to get wheatgrass and this girl made a scene. She was working there and said, “Oh my god, you’re Nick Carter,” and Nick’s like, “Yeah” – trying to keep it down because there were lots of people.

She’s like, “Oh you don’t want people to know who you are?” She started making a huge scene. People just want and want and never give you your space. When you want privacy, you end up looking like an asshole.

You’ve also had to put up with more fan abuse than any other Backstreet wife. Did you have doubts about dating a celebrity and did you have any idea what you were in for?

Lauren: None at all, especially because when I met Nick I didn’t know everything he had accomplished in life – how many records he had sold, the songs he sang, how girls all over the world fawned over him and had his posters on their walls. I had no idea that’s who I was dating.

How hard is it getting abuse from people who don’t know you?

Lauren: The first time it happened was on Perez Hilton. We got shot by paparazzi at The Grove in LA and I didn’t think anything of it. The next day our phones are going off and family members are calling. I didn’t even know Perez Hilton Online and he had put our picture up and wrote on me.

Everyone was saying how fat I was – how Nick had upgraded himself but downgraded his girlfriend and that it looked like anyone could date a popstar. That first initial public criticism was shocking.

Has it gotten easier to deal with that stuff – death threats and all?

Lauren: The tweets, death threats and heinous things I just block and move on. I don’t have a Facebook. I just keep an Instagram and Twitter, so I can have control over blocking and moving on.

*Find out more about Nick and Lauren’s family dramas in tonight’s episode of I Heart Nick Carter, 10/9c on VH1!

By Leena Tailor/@LeenaNZ

  1. On Oct 5, 2014, Lyly Santiago said:

    Love this one too! Thanks for writing :) Think they deserve love and happiness! They are great together and Lauren is a strong girl! She is great! <3

  2. On Oct 1, 2014, Mary0925 said:

    Another great interview! Thank you so much for sharing. I love reading these. Nick and Lauren are so supportive of one another, they are truly blessed to have found each other. I think they are an amazing couple.

  3. On Oct 1, 2014, LeenaNZ said:

    Thanks Frances, glad you're enjoying them! Stay tuned for more.

  4. On Sep 30, 2014, Paola Maria said:

    These words reaveal so much about both of you and your life. Wish you all the best!
    Paola xoxo

  5. On Sep 30, 2014, Nickfan said:

    So happy for You two You were made for each other.

  6. On Sep 27, 2014, Frances Tang said:

    I love these articles here! How come there are just so few comments! We need more article like this :D

  7. On Sep 25, 2014, Honeylove85 said:

    Congrats to you both nick Lauren you are a great match truly amazing

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